Jacqueline listened without judgment
Jacqueline as a therapist does not judge at all. She is judgment-free and I like that about her. The first appointment at 8:00 am on Monday morning my husband seemed so heavy to me. He looks after me anxiously when I go out the door. Actually, the therapy is not heavy at all. I feel more and more relaxed and calm inside. I get more clarity and know what is important to me. I also learn to communicate in an increasingly pleasant way so that I don’t have to blame less.
I often get angry with him
My husband feels guilty for cheating on him. That was already a few months ago. He doesn’t understand anything when I suddenly get so angry. The past two weeks have been so quiet and it is as if nothing is wrong. Only I am left with that miserable feeling inside that I can hardly talk to him about. I notice that I occasionally need more attention. I had that before he cheated. If I was looking back, I feel that our relationship superficial and that he did not pay enough attention to me.
Pretend nothing is wrong
I especially mind those times when there are guests and it seems like it’s all cake and egg again. When those guys are gone, I explode with anger. As a cool knight, he lets that pass because he feels guilty for cheating on him. As if he thinks “if that’s what you need, then do your thing and I’ll be brave.” While what I actually need is attention and love. That you dare to be vulnerable on both sides so that you can find the connection again.
My husband didn’t want to go into therapy
By entering therapy with Jacqueline I have discovered what it takes to be able to continue and want to continue in our relationship. Together with my husband we did a Loveworkx project at Jacqueline. I initially thought that I had lost my confidence and that we had to work on it and that this would be a tough and difficult process. My husband thought that we were going to talk endlessly about what he had done and that he had to expose his buttocks.
Therapy gave us peace and connection
Through the Loveworkx method we have discovered that we quickly get clarity on a completely different level. Jacqueline uses the metaphor of a pond. Instead of stirring up more and more mud and digging more and more in the past, we discovered that because of her question and approach, we suddenly saw things very clearly on a completely different level. That gave us a lot of peace and connection. Although we have been together for 23 years, we first really talked about our relationship vision and core values. It was a surprising approach for my husband, because he is used to thinking about this when it comes to his company, but never thought about it in the context of our relationship.
Our intimacy has grown
We started with a breakthrough session in which we stated that we want to continue together. That immediately gave us a sense of hope and relief. Subsequently, in the relationship coaching process that followed, we worked on equality in our relationship and a pleasant way of communicating. We make more time for each other and do things that we enjoy together. Our intimacy has grown and we accept each other as we are. Meanwhile, two friends of mine have also done a Loveworkx trajectory with their husband.
Jantine
